A while back I posted this message about asking my crush out.

Well, we have had our date. I arranged to take her out to a show and then for a bite to eat. When I picked her up, I hung around at my friends house for about 15 minutes. Though I am out to him (but not his wife) everything was completely normal. I had wondered if he was going to pull me aside and give me a "warning" but he did not.

We headed of to our show, which she and I both enjoyed. The show was good enough on its own, but the fact that my crush was sitting next to me for two hours made it that much better. A couple of times she briefly rested her head on my shoulder, which was really nice. At another point I leaned over to whisper something to her, put my hand on hers, and she grasped my hand and held on for about 30 seconds — that was great!

Later as we were refilling out bellies, we had great conversation. She is quite talkative, so my general shyness doesn't hold us up at all. Towards the end of our meal, without saying a word, she slides her plate over, and changes chairs so that instead of sitting across from me she was sitting next to me. She did not say why she did it, and I did not ask, but I was happy.

On the way taking her home, I asked her if she would like to do something else again in the future, and she gave an enthusiastic "yes" reply. Getting this "date" arranged took some effort. My wife knew of course, but allowed it because it did not take time away from the family, despite the fact that I spent 4.5 hours with my crush. I am already thinking of what we can do for our next outing...

A bigger question I have is how long can a "crush" continue before it is not a crush any longer, but something more? I have been calling her my "crush" for seven months now, and my feelings are the same now as they were seven months back. I think about her every day. I certainly love her, but should I really be saying that I am "in love" with her?

zlurker