So it's a very generic question to ask... but what are the limits of what you can do before there are legal repercussions?

I think I would have to consult a lawyer or another sort of legal authority before I could even begin to understand what the laws are (and what they mean) where I live. Not only because of how things can be worded but where, exactly, to find the laws on this matter. I did a little googling on what would be criminal sexual conduct, not that I trust internet sources just looking for a quick read, and one thing that stands out to me is that sometimes the buttocks are included in definition of genital touching and sometimes they are not included in that definition. And I just find myself thinking of all the sports games people play where a casual pat on the behind is considered a compliment and wonder if the law would consider that genital touching in that context. Ah yes, the context things are in I would think would be a huge complicated issue. Like patting a child's buttocks when the two of you are alone versus some pats before that child runs out to play his or her part in a sports game where parents, families, and many are gathered...aka a public place.

That sort of thing... do you think there could be a parent so reprehensible that even if you did nothing illegal, if she was trying to punish you to either protect her daughter in advance, or out of jealousy (if she found you attractive) then could she make the kid say you did more than you did?

That is definitely a real entrapment threat, especially to a male adult in my opinion. For any of those reasons; to punish, to protect, or out of jealousy, and maybe even a pittance of all three? Emotions are complicated things and I surmise (because I do not know personally) the urge to protect your child but also to have their love and appreciation for you are a strong thing.

I remember being a daughter of parents who must have thought they were protecting me. When I introduced myself I told how I had a small, and as far as I know legally, innocent relationship with a man when I was 12 and 13. He would have been in mid 30s btw. The details are something I have never disclosed to my parents, which was some hugging (12 & 13) and kissing (13), or the friendship I had with him. At one point they asked me why I was interested in this man and since I had never actually lied to them about him (just withheld details on what we did together) I told my father that "I love him".

After a huge explosion of anger from my parents they began to change their tone towards me. For a while they did not accuse me of being a slut and whore as they had done. But they wanted to help me, well they said so so it must be true [insert eye roll here]. And everything they said was worded so carefully if I had given them any sort of answer I would have been tricked into falsely accusing my man of hurting me. For example "What was it that he did to you?" see how that could imply coercion on his actions towards me? Oh I got to hear this one a lot "Its okay to tell me what happened, I can help you be safe because I love you" implying that I was not in safe with him if I had answered. Those were the kind ways they tried to trick me. Smile and act loving even though just the week before you were calling your daughter a worthless whore...as if I'd forget. Actually reflecting back on it because I was so angry with them is why I refused to answer them, almost taking a vow of silence because I would not say anything to them.

As for the jealousy part, I remember my mother telling me something along the lines of I was tricked by a handsome man and shouldn't let his charms fool me. Perhaps she was the one who had feelings for him, its something I can ponder now. Hadn't thought of that before.