Re: Questions

Hi,

Thanks for posting this.

These two episodes have been in my mind since then

I'm really sorry that you had these experiences. Sadly, there are some manipulative individuals out there who do seek to mistreat and abuse children and young people. Most of them are not actually primarily attracted to children, but are cynical opportunists; none of them are girl (or boy) lovers.

I still can't understand why someone can be sexually attracted to a little girl.

Well, maybe I could start out by asking you if you could understand why someone would feel love for little girls? There are certain qualities in girls which inspire that love in me: sensitivity, gentleness, warmth, affection, intelligence, playfulness. And the way those qualities are reflected in their physicality: the gentle, subtle beauty of her form.

You may understand that, but not see how this would translate into an erotic attraction?

As I see it, eroticism primarily means a longing for the ultimate relationship, for an intimate closeness with the loved. It is in part a physically felt desire, but the basis of it is internal, emotional, spiritual - it involves the whole person. The whole of you wants to relate to the whole of the one you love, and to interrelate closely with them. Because the love I feel for a little girl I love is that meaningful to me, it cannot not be erotic.

I don't know if you've followed that so far; if you have, you might be thinking now of vast chasms of difference that would separate a man and a little girl. Are we not worlds apart?

No... I feel far, far closer to a little girl I love than I ever could to any adult. The 'link' is there in the relatedness between us. I don't have a desire to interact sexually with a little girl in the way that a non-paedophile would want to interact with a woman/man. It would be different. The whole focus of my feelings (my internal desires; I don't interact erotically with children) is on mutuality: on loving a little girl in the way that she may wish to love me and to have that love returned. Paedophilic sexuality is much 'gentler' than adult/adult sexuality, and is actually matched closely and perfectly to the child herself.

I said I don't act erotically with children, and that is true. But I said the basis of my feelings is love, and there are ways of non-sexually, legally, interacting with little girls in ways which can be warmly affectionate; because we do love girls, that kind of interaction is, for any girl lover, deeply meaningful and fulfilling - spending time with a child friend, talking with her, exchanging an affectionate cuddle, or holding her hand, playing with her.

I'm sorry but things like "OMG! That 8 year-old girl is HOT!" or "I saw a LG wearing a dress and she was wearing white cotton panties, nice view!" scare me. A LOT.

OK. Well, please don't be scared;) Little girls are to us erotically attractive. I'm writing to you, a non-paedophile, and to you as someone who is asking to understand us. So of course I'm trying to explain it as clearly as I can and in as full a context as I can. But when we talk amongst ourselves, as girl lovers, we obviously know that context - we feel it, we don't need to constantly explain it to ourselves. So, in a sense, you should see those occasional kind of statements as a kind of relaxed, casual 'short-hand'; there is a lot more to girl love than that.

I think the other point to make is that there is really nothing wrong at all with enjoying and celebrating the physical feelings we have for girls - we love the beauty of girls; how that is verbally expressed depends on context, time, differences in how people phrase thoughts, all those sorts of things.

If a pedophile molests/has sex/tries to have sex/takes nude pics of a LG *I'm not talking about a teen here, I'm talking about a child*, do you think that is a correct behaviour?

Anything non-consensual is - of course - morally abhorrent. What is 'correct behaviour' is to act with respect for and in the best interests of the little girl.

Sexual interactions with little girls happens to be illegal, and would stand a signficant chance of resulting in negative consequences for her in today's society. So we avoid that. In principle, if laws did not exist, there is nothing wrong in itself with consensual physical expressions of love; but if this happened it should arise naturally, not as something imposed or influenced - it would not be an imitation of adult/adult type sexuality. And there is nothing wrong with celebrating physical beauty. These questions are only complicated by the existence of legal frameworks and conceptions which completely misunderstand or ignore the nature of adult/child love.

Are you sexually attracted to other people/things/whatever or just LG?

Personally, I'm romantically attracted only to little girls; some girl lovers are 'exclusive' in that way, others are not.

Thanks for your interest.

~Mesmerised