Re: Questions

hi. its really nice when people show a willingness to understand, or at least to seek the means. thankyou.

- Why do you think you're attracted to LG? Please, don't answer that with "Just because" or "Why are you attracted to men/women?" because I can answer that. I really want a truthful answer to this one.

i'm sorry, but "Just because" is far and away the best answer. i knew i was different this way when i was ten or eleven years old, well before i grew a single pubic hair. i used to ask myself this question a lot. 'why do i fall in love with little girls and not women?' why? why? why? the question doesn't seem so important anymore, altho i'm still interested in it in an academic way. paedophilia is a sexual orientation, not a fetish or a hobby or an interest.

- If a pedophile molests/has sex/tries to have sex/takes nude pics of a LG *I'm not talking about a teen here, I'm talking about a child*, do you think that is a correct behaviour? Or s/he should go to jail? Why? Where do you trace the no-no line? Would it be different if it wasn't illegal or you trace it there thinking about the children and not just the law?

how a person expresses their sexuality is their own business, not a necessary characteristic of their orientation. not all gays have anal sex or give strangers blow jobs in public toilets (or so they tell me).

i certainly don't think a paedophile should go to jail for taking nude photos of a child! if the photographer respects and honours the subjects personhood, i think child nudes are a beautiful and valid artform. i'm a strong believer in artistic freedom. i don't like pornography much, and i wouldn't agree with using children in pornography, but i don't consider every nude image or record of a sexual being to be pornography.

i think sexually molesting a child is one of the scummiest things a person can do. paedophiles aren't typically interested in 'having sex' with children. most are interested in the same kind of things children themselves are interested in: satisfying curiosity, playing games, cuddling, romance.

i'm very alert to the sociogenic harms associated with transgressive sexual activity, esp where kids are concerned, so i wouldn't condone sexual contact between adults and children in the current climate.

- Are you sexually attracted to other people/things/whatever or just LG? If the answer is yes, do those interests have anything in common with the one discussed here? Why?

i don't completely understand this question, but... i'm attracted to women, just not as much as i am to girls. i've had two or three very satisfactory long term relationships, and i'd still like to have a family.

i've fallen seriously in love with two, maybe three women and four girls. thats about the way i'm made.

think about it this way. if you were a guy living in a rural area where being homosexual was close to a capital offense and invited heavy ostracism, WHY ON EARTH would anybody be gay? they know they're gonna be beaten up or killed. so why?

the fact is, they keep falling in love with other men, notice men, fantasize about them and so on. they just have to be who they are, otherwise they go crazy.

well, thats just how it is being a paedophile. you don't know why it is, but after a while you just have to accept it, and not feel guilty about it.

hope that helps a bit.