Re: Questions

Hi,

I am pleased to have the opportunity to answer your questions. They are, after all, questions many, if not most, non-pedophiles would ask, so you speak for them. I speak only for myself, but I am sure my views are not too dissimilar to many other Child Lovers.

I say "Child Lover", rather than "pedophile", because, even though the word's actual meaning IS "child lover", it is most often used synonymously with "child molester", which is something I am not.

"When I was about eight, an unknown man tried to make me go into his car so he could "take me to the beach" *I was on my way to the public pool* and insisted about it until I run away in tears and scared out of my mind. I never talked to a stranger again during the rest of my childhood and my early teenage years."

This "stranger" may have been a pedophile but he probably was not a true lover of children. You see, just as the mainstream heterosexual and homosexual communities have a range of behavior patterns and codes of conduct, so too do pedophiles. Unfortunately, some ARE child molesters, caring only for their own selfish desires and not for the well being of children. Most, however, are Child Lovers, who have both a physical desire and strong emotional love for children. This emotional love, rather than pure physical attraction, is what drives the majority of people I have met within our orientation. Because of this, we have no affinity for people who would frighten a little girl or boy.

"Then another man, this one known by my family, tried to touch me *and I'm not talking about my arm* and even offered me money to go with him, saying that he was being generous because I was "fresh" and that he could find a hooker for way less but he liked me better. I was twelve then and could confront him. He left me alone when I threatened him to call the police if he ever dared to even look at me or any of my friends again."

This man is very simply a creep. Touching, without consent, is sexual assault by any sane definition. You were very brave and smart to stand up to him. Good for you!

"- Why do you think you're attracted to LG? Please, don't answer that with "Just because" or "Why are you attracted to men/women?" because I can answer that. I really want a truthful answer to this one."

There are several theories about why someone's sexuality deviates from the heterosexual norm. Some say it is nature, e.g. "I was born this way". Others believe is was nurture, e.g., something happened to freeze the sex drive at the prepubescent stage. Personally, I think it is a combination of both, with some personal ratio applicable to each individual. It may well be, however, that nature herself has deigned that a certain percentage of the population be attracted to children in order to ensure that they will be cared for, loved, and nurtured in the event that their parents are unable or unfit to do so. I hope you will agree with me that children cannot be loved too much, or by too many people.

"- If a pedophile molests/has sex/tries to have sex/takes nude pics of a LG *I'm not talking about a teen here, I'm talking about a child*, do you think that is a correct behaviour? Or s/he should go to jail? Why? Where do you trace the no-no line? Would it be different if it wasn't illegal or you trace it there thinking about the children and not just the law?"

On the surface, this should be an easy question; a "no-brainer" if you will. But, the truth is often more complicated that the first thing that comes into our heads. Rape; i.e. non-consensual sexual contact, is always wrong and always deserves justice. It should be noted however, that "rape" has been redefined by lawmakers, to mean any sexual contact, consensual or not, between persons in certain age groups. This means that children are prohibited from having sex with anyone, not just pedophiles. They are not even allowed to engage in normative childhood behavior, such as playing doctor, without the possibility, nee, probability, that they will be liable
for adult style punishment in a court of law. There have even been cases of children being put on sex offender registries for life, because they engaged in, what has been historically understood to be normal behavior.

Should a child break the social taboo with an adult, the adult is dealt with as severely, if not more so than if he had actually murdered her. The child is not exempt from extraordinarily serious consequences either, as she will undergo the further trauma of gynecological examinations, embarrassing questioning, and often hurtful and harmful counseling. Children who dare to satisfy their natural curiosity with ANYONE, but particularly a loving, caring adult, is sacrificed on the alter of sexual purity and the facade of inborn innocence.

Because this is true, I, and most thoughtful, caring Child Lovers do not, and will not, allow out little friends to be sexual with us. I personally, do not even want to answer their honest questions about sexuality or the anatomical differences between males and females. I will refer them to their parents for that.

"- Are you sexually attracted to other people/things/whatever or just LG? If the answer is yes, do those interests have anything in common with the one discussed here? Why?"

I am both physically and emotionally attracted to children and have been so since about the age of 13. I am now a middle aged man who has known, loved, and cared for many, many children. And, I might add, in all those years, I have never had any kind of sexual relationship with any of them, not for lack of desire, nor for a lack of opportunity, but simply because the consequences to both the children and to myself would be too daunting. I will not take a child I love, (which are all of them) for a swim in polluted waters. The anti-sex, (but let's use it to sell everything from blue jeans to automobiles), schizophrenic culture in which we live, has filthied this natural bodily function to the point where is it not suitable for children.

Thank you for asking these questions. I hope you will do some further research on the matter so you can put to rest your negative experiences that you had to endure in childhood. For me, children are so much more than just a sexual desire, that I can live with the social taboos and legal restrictions. The positive influence I can have with them, the love I can give to them, and the mutual benefits to child and adult, is enough for me to live a contented and satisfied life, assured that the children and I are both better off because of my "pedophilia"(sic).

Take Care.

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