Re: Suicide thoughts

To the plain vanilla hetero, suicide is an unreasonable response, but can be modeled by their expectations. Don't they enter a relationship for stability with an expectation that it won't change significantly?

If you think that the future is predictable and will bring more of the same, then one may be tempted to do something rash when an unbearable present seems to predict an unbearable future.

But Peds should know better.

There is nothing that makes a laughingstock of our plans and predictions like an LG. She is a force of nature who exists to surprise us. And we never know what next year's "crop" of LGs will bring.

To any keen observer of girlosity, we know that the only thing constant is change. And that the next little charmer will teach us something we couldn't have predicted.

I believe that if you stick around long enough you will outlast your sorrow and may even learn some coping behaviour you hadn't counted on. LGs model the universe in that regard.

Sometimes its enough to just be aware that it might be a chemical imbalance.

For a while I lived in a northerly clime. ( Yes kiddies, Dante hasn't always resided in Pago Pago.) And when the blues and blahs struck they would feel overwhelming until I got out of my funk enough to diagnose a case of seasonal affective disorder. Just getting out of the house was frequently enough to help.

Further, Dante is quite susceptible to misdiagnosing physical depression as emotional depression. But when joint pain and sinusitis join the irritability, its hard to continue assuming that its purely emotional.

And some depression is understandable. Its only clinical if there's no good reason. But believe me when Mrs. Dante gave Mr. Dante his walking papers after a decade of marriage, there was good reason to be depressed.

But I'm too much of a believer in change to want to do something irretrievable as a reaction to the present moment. LGs have taught me that life is a series of little presents.

Dante