I agree with your re-writes...

...and I think Kiota was more open-minded than I originally gave her credit for. I mourn the loss of her life, and I hope that in the afterlife her troubled soul is given needed support and rest (no offense to anyone who doesn't believe in an afterlife).

As for your re-writes, 28, I agree with them. I know we have been at each others' throat at times in the past, but most often I agree with everything you have to say. Thank you for weighing in on this thread.

The idea of children and teens being intimate with a teacher, coach, or activity guardian is controversial, and I understand why Kiota may have felt that way. We don't want people in authority to make kids think that they must respond to sexual advances or suffer in return. And I don't think it's wise, overall, for parents to be sexual with their own flesh-and-blood kids. But I still think that mentors can make good, caring lovers and that as long as they do not abuse their authority or try to make the child or teen feel coerced into or guilty for not responding to a sexual advance the relationship can be quite rewarding. Some colleges have rules against the professors from dating their students, for largely the same reason, even though the students are then of legal age. Again, I can understand this, but I do not totally agree with it. I wish I could be a mentor to teen girls (and maybe teens in general) and if I was, I would like to experience intimacy with some of them who happened to have a more than platonic interest in me. Sometimes feelings develop between mentors and those they are mentoring, and I see nothing wrong with it, as long as (once again) the mentor in question never uses their position to coerce a young person into sexual intimacy with them, or try to make them feel guilty for saying no. And I do agree with Kiota that it's preferable that the younger person initiates anything between them. I see nothing wrong with asking a special girl out to dinner, but if anything physically intimate would occur, I would prefer the girl to initiate it (of course, I do not advocate anyone breaking the law...I am speaking in hypotheticals here, describing the ethics of a future society in which intergenerational love and dating is no longer illegal or a serious cultural taboo).

As for not keeping the relationship a secret...I am in total agreement. There is nothing I want more than to be able to date a teen girl publicly and to affirm my love for her openly. I don't want to have to keep it secret, and I fully agree that 98% of all potential harm in mutually consensual intergenerational relationships is the need to keep it secret, and what happens if the secret is exposed. I am not ashamed of my attraction to teen girls and I wish I could date them openly. I would love to get to know their parents and to let them know that I am not a bad guy and that my love and affection, along with responsible physical intimacy, is not toxic to the girl in question.

Thank you for another fine post, 28.