Re: Instead... To her.

I think this is appropriate to share.
It just helps my process. I think many of you will enjoy reading it. This is TO her.

I should tell you these things, I'm sorry if it bothers you, I have concern for that possibility, but I think it is a good place for us to start our new image of each other as friends.

I want to let you know I am happy we have sorted this out. I'm amazed how you didn't hurt me at all. You didn't hurt me over the past two years, and you DID NOT hurt me this week either. I've never had someone 'breakup' with me in such a kind and sensitive way. This does amaze me. That you did it without leaving me feeling badly about you at all. You told me we should just be friends and I agreed, but remarkably you did it without hurting me too, something many adults have not achieved. That, I feel speaks of some integrity you have, that to me is highly respectable, and I think you should be proud of the way you handle yourself. You have a good balance of your needs, and of others, and that is what I meant last night when I said you were healthy.

You have been really wonderful influence to me; you have been so kind... You just have no idea what an integral, significant, special, and large part you have played in forming the person I am today.

I'm extremely thankful that you have touched my life, and how my time with you has changed me profoundly for the better. I have grown so much with you. You didn't really know the whole time, of the positive effect you were having on me, but you were. I think you will, still. The changes this experience has brought me so far, that alone, I am forever grateful to you for. I wouldn't EVER want you to not have been a part of my past. I'm always going to be happy you came into my life.

Yes, this is proof that I'm not going to put you aside and ignore you, in case you'd feared that, since you said if I stopped talking to you, it would be 'horrible'.

I'll need to define you in my mind as someone different from before, but I think you will find this is an easier and more natural role for us at this time. I will try to still be all of the good things I am to you, and I do not think you will see me change. I hope you will still benefit from having me in your life, and enjoy all of the things you like about me. I enjoy knowing that I am a positive person in your life, and it brings me joy that I can have a good influence on you, and just knowing you benefit, and gain, from my friendship, is deeply meaningful and rewarding. There is a purpose it gives me to know I bring you such benefit by being your friend. I know to me, that you will still be a very special, rewarding, and motivating part of my life. I can see already the special role we will each play.