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Ok I figured out. You were right to spot a problem I have, Its been identified before, and I'm working on it with a mental health professional again.

Right off of wikipedia:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_in_adults

This is a reasonable description of how I may mal-adaptively attach.
Such problems are universal, and I don't think it has anything to do with my orientation. I had emotional abandonment as a child, felt, even though I was actually safe, I didn't know it.

This is a reasonable description of how I may mal-adaptively attach:

Anxious-preoccupied attachment

People who are anxious or preoccupied with attachment tend to agree with the following statements: "I want to be completely emotionally intimate with others, but I often find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I am uncomfortable being without close relationships, but I sometimes worry that others don't value me as much as I value them." People with this style of attachment seek high levels of intimacy, approval, and responsiveness from their partners. They sometimes value intimacy to such an extent that they become overly dependent on their partnersa condition colloquially termed clinginess. Compared to securely attached people, people who are anxious or preoccupied with attachment tend to have less positive views about themselves. They often doubt their worth as a partner and blame themselves for their partners' lack of responsiveness. People who are anxious or preoccupied with attachment may exhibit high levels of emotional expressiveness, worry, and impulsiveness in their relationships.