Re: Resolution?

From your short description this sounds like abuse, though possibly of the lesser "taking advantage of naïveté" and "imbalance of power" kinds. I say 'lesser', but this sort of behavior can still have quite a negative impact - just not as great (generally) as forcible rape.

Of course, cultural values (opposition to sexuality, opposition to children's sexuality, opposition to homosexuality) were probably involved. Being confronted with questions about your sexuality, which social values had prevented you from being able to answer decisively, probably contributed to your confusion and discomfort - but the older person who apparently pressured you into that situation also bears a good deal of the blame for putting that pressure on you.