My case; Regret in hindsight w/ no abuse claim.

I lost my virginity to a friend's fiance ( with his knowledge; theirs was an "open relationship." )

She actually had a fantasy about doing us together. Strangely enough, I didn't share that fantasy ;p

As with many first times, it seemed over almost as soon as it began. And I was rather clueless about the whole thing.

However, it turned out to be a one-time thing. ( She could have been clear about that. )

And it also turned out that she had a thing for virgins and would continue to collect the virginities of many young guys in our little corner of Sci-Fi fandom. ( And yes, it really is that easy with most fanboys. )

Had I known that it would be a few more years before I went from having sex ( once ) to having a sex-life; or known that she wasn't interested in me, just in a few things I represented; I probably would have turned down the offer.

In short, I was used.

However, how this all differs is that she was 18 and I was 19. In our jurisdiction, we were both adults. Therefore the question of exploitation-without-fraud falls into the "lump it" category.

Further I consented, and in the moment had a relatively good time. How I feel about it later can't really be factored in. ( There can be mitigating circumstances revealed after the fact; but most all of them fall into the category of fraud. )

I realize, that had I been 15 or 16 and her 18, what was merely regret in hindsight could have turned into a sexual abuse claim were I feeling spiteful ( without the actions being any different. ) And it goes without saying that had anyone figured out that she was collecting virgins ( and had they been minors ) consent would have been nullified by law and she would be a "predator" in the eyes of the law.

Dante