It seems that your 'accurate view' consists of a mid-point between two extremes. One person says '2+2=4', the other says '2+2=6' therefore the accurate view must be '2+2=5' - so much depends on what extremes you choose as your endpoints...
I think it's a huge problem that, and a huge criticism of society today, that, for a phenomena that so obsesses people,that there is no real research, investigation or attempts to properly understand the issues. This is one of the hall-marks of 'witch-hunts' - people are no longer interested in the truth - as one poster to the comments section of an article on paedophilia said "this is not a topic we should be rational about'.
But, yes, as you say, we're arguing over details. I appreciate the attention you've given to this, despite us having a different outlook on the issues.
I'll have a look at n°2, keeping what you mention about qualifiers in mind.