We know what he means when he says "fundamentally OK." And it is very different from what most all the Teleios know.

Sex.......... is fundamentally OK.

Most desires end up not being reciprocal.

And.......... since rape is bad, most desire for a particular individual would not be OK sex if it happened.

But this has nothing to do with whether sex itself is good or bad, and is entirely dependent upon what two people with agency desire.

Its as simple as a Venn diagram. Overlapping desires make the relationship OK.

Its not too hard for the Teleio to grasp, why should it be so difficult for the self-loathing?

It seems to me that it is the self-loathing who employ bizarre far-fetched idiosyncratic lines of reasoning you will never encounter out there in the Real World.

Dante