I am in pain for you Rainbowloom. I don't think I can help much other than to say that things could be a lot worse: She could be punished or "psychologied" until She rejects you. Or, as you feared, there could be some LEO involvement. I PRAY these do not ever happen.
My birth mother spent years in a Catholic convent because of her liaison with her lover. She told me she hated it. I believe her. She was 15, he was 50. You wonder why I am intergenerational? :) Here's another odd fact: he was a pilot!
You owe it to Her, as well as to yourself, to keep the rainbow running true and fair. Keep in mind that YOU and HER are right; everyone else is WRONG. You know it. I know it. We know it. She might not know it. If She ever sees you withstanding the gunfire and hell you are experiencing, She will understand HOW it is that you both are right.
Also, keep in mind there are quite a few people HERE that love you, too.
I will check back later when I get in town agian.
HUGS to you, okay?