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It should also be noted that I didn't start reading about this until it was already underway, so I don't know all the details you've shared. From my end, what I see is someone struggling, and I try to share what I know from personal experience when I can. My conclusion was that it sucks falling into a mutual love with a relative, and over the years that I've been able to dwell upon it now that the emotional investment has faded, I've been able to see the pitfalls, both those which befell me personally, and those which did not but could have. So as I said, I wasn't judging, but simply giving feedback which I didn't have access to at the time of my own experience.

Happy Alice Day...