I should try to be fairer and fewer rosy eyed.

Raccoon is great with me. But still has defects she needs to solve. She still unnecessarily confronts Mom. Blame is shared: Mom should know better how Raccoon is too. But Raccoon could do better. She also should see better how what she says and does will be seen by Mom. She knows well I'm a much better mediator than Mom, for instance. And then again... the defect which I've always remarked and questioned; ultimately what made me drift away from her after I swore she was the girl of my life. She still surrenders too much of herself for bhoys. She is strong with me, confrontational with Mom, realistic with her siblings younger and older alike -- and then weak, doveish and utopian with bhoys she digs. The best Raccoon is still the Raccoon I would die and kill for. The worst Raccoon is a girl I wouldn't be interested in keeping in my life.

Teen Girl had a good month or two, but she is regressing quickly. Even regressing behind what she had been before.

Gunner is perfect and I insist on this. But she is also a bad communicator of herself. Mom should be as much in the clouds about her as I am. She isn't. And Gunner doesn't seem to know how to argue her own case. I can make it once or twice. I cannot make it always. She is perfect, and yet it seems I'm the only one who ever knew it.