some fundamental values disagreements

That has to be a good thing overall.

We disagree on that. It's obvious we are never going to agree. So there isn't much that can be discussed here.

On the other hand, this difference is so important precisely because it informs so much of my world view and my theories of how it can happen.

Today, just about all relationships involving young people in general and teens in particular are assumed to be transient.

Which I regard as a bad thing.