You're somebody looking for answers. Defense of adult lovers for acts with former youths is not permitted on the internet. You should know that by now. After all, the narrative is on your current side. There were sites in the past where people tried to make defenses of their adult partners. Their partners were exposed to risk, as were they themselves targeted for daring to defend things which could be prosecuted, and these places were shut down.

So tell me, how does one mount a defense when the thing they are defending is either only a theory negated by criticism telling them they don't know how it is in reality, or is backed by actual experience that then become an illegal act which instantly attracts law enforcement attention for investigation and prosecution? You don't (won't) see how things are rigged?

Please explain how this defense could be done safely, and once it can be done, how it also overcomes the preferred narrative which is currently silencing significantly held opinions on a variety of other topics, not just our own.

You're still living in the shallow end of the debate pool. Put on some swimmies and dare to doggie paddle into the deep end.