What I really hate are prescriptivist approaches.
Some girls know when they're four years old that want to get married and have children of their own. Some figure that out later.
Some girls know when they're four years old that they aren't like other girls, and want to be an entrepreneur or an engineer. Some figure that out later.
Whatever it is that girls want to pursue, if they are fixed in their desire and have thought it through, let them pursue that. Of course there are no guarantees that they will succeed, but it should be their choice.
Don't presume there is only one way, or that one way is "better" than the other.
In fact, that was what feminism was originally about. It was primarily in the 1970s, after the reasonable feminists had accomplished their goals and went on with their lives, that feminism was hijacked by the crazies that remained.