but it's absolutely possible for a given girl to capture your heart - and you hers - in a way such that you can be together longer-term, through all the transitional stuff, and even into marriage.

in other words, the pedo/girl relationship can transform - with the right circumstances, care, and compatibility, into a true love relationship. coming from someone who still believes that true love unequivocally exists.

i'm not saying it's for everyone, but if you want to really soul-bond with someone, and you find that sort of love satisfying, and especially if you're not "exclusive"... you can realize that attraction's not at all the same thing as "i want to spend my whole life at your side". remember, you fall in love with her as a person... not the fact that she happens to still be a preteen. that's just a condition that makes attraction possible for you initially.

and if you set your life up so that you're around kids, you can have both - the distant-but-not-so-distant reverence of girls - girl-loving, so-to-speak - and the intimate companionship that most people are seeking, alongside that particularly perfect individual.

statistically, it's actually quite normal for modern girl-lovers to still marry - or at least also date adults and eventually produce offspring.

personally... i could never be with someone (in a sexual way) whom i wasn't also in love with. but absolutely, if i was so lucky as to mutually fall in love with a girl during the years of her childhood and she chose ME as a long-term companion, i'd be completely honoured and would do (almost literally) anything and everything to make it work. even if some of the physical and psychological attraction were to disappear in later years... that's just a completely normal function of any romantic relationship.

you know these things.

ultimately, you can create a reality that matches your needs (as opposed to fantasy). the power is yours. obviously you have to work with what you got, which - sadly - is put under severe, unjust limitations... but again, you see where i'm going with this (i hope).

part of the societal change i think we should seek - and what i think is an extremely important result of reducing stigma and educating the masses - is to make that transformation of that pedo-/girl relationship into a true love relationship more likely. the age of consent is really a minor issue. what us pedos should be concerned with is making sure our pedo/girl relationships (which appear, for all intents and purposes, from a heteronormative perspective, to be simply beautiful - treasured, sacred even - friendships) aren't coming under such heavy fire, so that they can endure as they are ought to. not a simple task, by any means, but that's what i believe we should be focusing on.

at the very least, though, a girl-lover needs a steady supply of girls to love. so work on setting that up for yourself, in any case...

~ rainbow