The thinking that you should only help people with the expectation that you'll get something in return, being "too" compassionate, kindness is weakness, and so on.

>>Or you can just not intervene, and let them find out for themselves the consequences of that practice...So then the problem solves itself.

How's that been working out?

>>Let's say there are girls next door being abused; it's not always possible to give them any help that's going to actually put them in a better position. If they go to foster care, they might get abused even worse there.

This seems simply defeatist, and I don't really understand your thought process. Something "even worse" could happen if anyone or anything tries to help, so fuck it?