One disconnect I've felt between myself and other pedophiles is that I've never felt "burdened" by my attraction much. I don't think it's ever led to mental or physical problems, and it's not something that I want to change. While it may not be a simple choice, I think pedophiles could change their perspective if they wanted to, and alleviate, at least somewhat, any physical or mental ills they feel are caused by (the responses to, etc.) their attraction, using something akin to Buddhist meditation.
Incidentally, don't get married. I think it's a horrible choice for most hetero men attracted to adult women. I think the decision is even worse if your attraction is minimal to non-existent. But I guess it works for some people.