HIM, it's him...

You can be as sympathetic and empathetic as you want. That only means you are empathetic to another MAN. He can get as many surgeries as he wants (and he probably is still intact - 85-92% of men don't remove their member...OF COURSE), but he is still a man. If you think so little about women, that you think a man is the same as an LG because he is turned on by wearing a skirt - then you have no business around girls OR women.
Girls are not the same as boys. Girls do not think the same as boys. That is irrespective of how they identify or what clothes they wear. "She" is a he, he always was a 'he', always will be a 'he'. You are not being polite to the man by referring to him as if he's a woman. You are being mean to little girls who are women-in-training and will grow to be women simply by growing up. You are also being mean to us, your audience, by intentionally using convoluted incoherent language and expecting us to understand. I don't speak newspeak.
I have more experience than you in this arena, so I know what I'm talking about. I used to party with a married hetero cross-dresser. There was a trans identified male in my social circle when I was an older teen and young adult. I used to work at a nightclub where one of the "female" dancers was actually a post-op transsexual. We were co-workers and friends. No matter how many hormone shots they took, no matter how much plastic surgery they got, they were 100% bonefide men in every way. They thought exactly as a man would think. Nothing changed that.
Feel free to use their new name to their faces. Feel free to NOT rub their faces in the fact they are men. There is no need to bring it up. It's reasonable to keep your mouth shut about the truth in order to keep the peace one-on-one.
However, your virtue-signaling use of the wrong pronouns when discussing a trans identified man, impresses no one. The trans identified man you are talking about is properly referred to as 'he'. Quit trying to impress us with how progressive you are.