"I can still love a girl after she has grown up ... **if I knew her as a girl...*** "
I feel the same way but in reverse. I don't think I have it within me to start anything with someone new, even a CL...IDK. :( (It's not like I meet a lot of CLers anyway so maybe I'm wrong?)
I get asked out but I say no because I wonder "Why?" The last one seemed genuinely nice too, but I felt I would only be wasting his time so I said no.
My other posts indicate how I feel about teleios in general. You can listen to the last song on my playlist, too. That's probably a bad attitude to have if the goal is to start a new healthy relationship.
On an individual level I don't actually hate them, but I don't like them. The thought of one of them touching me make me throw up in my mouth a little bit. Maybe I can change "if I meet the right person", but I doubt that.