Thank you so much for talking to me. I have apprecaited everyone's answers. I dated this guy for 1 year and 5 months before he touched my daughter. He has confessed to touching her, but not to "finger" penetration which she says happened. He says he doesn't remember doing that, only touching her there. That is why we have to go to court. It is the difference between a misdemeanor and a felony. So he will probably definitely serve some jail time. He also lived with a family before who had two little girls and he molested the older one, but I don't know for how long. He lived there about 7 or 8 years so there is no telling. I have just recently wrote to him and asked him if he was only attracted to little girls. Everyone is telling me that he just used me to get to my daughter. It's hard not to believe it, but I need for him to tell me the truth. He says that he loves me, but we have always had an issue with sex(unable to get an ere. etc.) That sends a signal to me that maybe he isnt attracted to me. I just want to understand. My daughter says that she never wants to see him again but that she is still a little mad at him but she is getting over it. I don't know how she will feel as time goes by. I feel like he is my soul mate and I love him very much. And you know no one will ever be on my side. But I have forgiven him and have decided to try to help him and maybe we can have a life together. Thanks again for your advice. I really do need it............ : )