Re: So that's a Yes?

All people change. ALL people. It is plain delusional to aim at finding a person that never changes.

That's a red herring. Yes, everyone changes, but that doesn't mean you can count on people changing when you want them to in the way, you want them to or think they should. And even when relationships do end, it can mess people up for a long, long time. Children are especially affected by long-term meaningful relationships ending. You can't expect that a girl will just get over it and grow out of the relationship. It might happen that way, but placing that kind of expectation on the relationship doesn't sound much like love to me. When people experiment with love like that, someone usually ends up getting profoundly hurt.

No, that's being suicidally delusional.

Um, it's not delusional; it's hardwired into us. Very strongly in females, but in males too to some extent. Females want a provider for them and their children; males want to spread their seed, but they also seek stability after a certain age.

And the delusion increases the pain and the conflict when it happens.

So what, people should just set their feelings aside when they get into a relationship so they won't get hurt? You know it doesn't work that way. You sure as hell can't expect that of children, who are often much more at the mercy of their emotions. That is completely unfair.