I can mostly see where you're coming from.
But why do you think they are oversexualized?
And why do you contradict yourself? i.e. virped for life vs "I want it more than life itself".
Maybe we are all complicated beings after all, but sexuality, at any age, is a normal function of being human.
I'm just throwing about ideas and probably not giving the answers you want, but this is all I can think of now.