Maybe that phrase could work, but I never had that problem because all of my friends are "outed" on the SOR.

Because we get harassed, beaten, and thrown out on almost a daily basis (I had to clean some stinkbombs off the yard) we have our own networks, have our own social gatherings, and help each other against the bears, cub scouts (city police), and the soccer mom brigade.

That's what we need to do: provide for ourselves as CLs and provide for our fellow brothas and sistas!