One of the most persistent but non-nonsensical social myths attributed to intergenerational liaisons is that if a girl develops feelings for an adult man, it will be forever, and she is thus taking an immense emotional risk with this bond since the GLer will "inevitably" toss her by the wayside once she ages out of his (or her) preferred AoA (age of attraction, for benefit of newbies).

That part of the common narrative used to deride the validity of such relationships willfully overlooks the fact that it's not the girl, but actually the adult, who takes the bulk of the emotional risk. Younger people change remarkably fast compared to the typical adult, and their emotional needs and bonds - particularly of a romantic sort - tend to be quite mercurial and fleeting. They naturally move on quite fast as their emotional status and needs change and evolve from month to month.

It's a difficult thing that MAPs have to adapt to, and in a world that allowed our relationships to fully flourish, this type of emotional compensation and consideration for the fast-changing nature of girls would need to be taken into account.

I'm glad to hear that g13 has now found her way to you, and I'm sorry that g9 seems to be starting the natural "moving on" process that many girls do. Also, girls seem to be quite well versed in finding ways of achieving an emotional advantage in such relationships, another attribute of theirs that goes against the common narrative.