I prefer to think of the risk as being fairly equal between the child and the adult in a romantic relationship and maybe even in a sexual relationship. Probably a very different idea of risk for the kid than the adult but a real conscious risk nonetheless. But yes, the adult is more likely to be the one tossed by the wayside, emotionally.

That emotional advantage of the child is likely a significant 'reason' why that, 'world that allows' is not here or even on the horizon. Adults may not be ready. I'm not.

My girl relationships are not sexual but I'm certain they are romantic in both directions (a dangerous bond that should also be avoided according to Ethan). And that emotional advantage is clear even in my limited experiences.

Perhaps you would handle it without difficulty. But when I look at sexual relationships in the world today, I see dysfunction almost everywhere. Sudden sexual freedom of children, could cause more problems than it would solve in this environment. First must come healthy sexual tolerance and redefined human sexual morality. Only after that could the kids be safe exercising their sexual choices with adults, the way I see it.

But who really knows? Only skimpy evidence about kids in those situations exists and nearly none at all exists for the MAA. With a poor emotionally stable track record with adult/adult sex, I can't see it being any better with adult/child sex.

And thank you. It feels really good that I have weathered all storms with g13 so far (I'm out to her you know). And I have her and g4 to help me through the pain of 'losing' g9, if and when that happens. As long as I keep playing my cards right with them, g9 will also return and maybe g4 will not leave at all.

That keeps me going.