i agree with your last statement

"Maybe we should listen more to what the anti-pedos are saying about us rather than just knocking it all off as "well, they hate us, so fuck'em"."

I dunno about Angry Momma's statements specifically (or other antis that have recently been argued with recently) but I agree with this in general. This doesn't apply to ad hominem attacks, but for logical arguments, we should seriously consider potentially legitimate concerns that antis may raise, instead of dismissing them out of hand.