I think you two have a language barrier

It's obvious that you two disagree - but it's obvious too that both are refusing to agree to disagree.

It's obviouser yet when each one's posts are considered apart.

BHN:

That was a fun, saucy response.
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What I find to be cute, funny, saucy, independent, et cetera, doesn't have to be the same thing you find sexy. I realize that. You realize it, too, ok?
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Your definition of "rude" is different from other people's. Obviously.

As I explained elsewhere, neither do I find it funny at all.

But neither GR nor me ever implied to dictate what other people find sexy; even if we insist that rudeness shouldn't be glorified. For instance, I do find Hitler Jugend uniforms unbelievably sexy, but I am NOT therefore eulogising lg's who are Nazis. Well, except for Helga Goebbels, of course. I also find sexy other things other people would hate, but I just went for the least politically correct, in order to make my point stand out most.

If you want to find sexy lg's being rude, fine - you are right that everyone is entitled to find sexy anything they want. But you are not right to ask other people not to find it rude. Same as I have the right to find Hitler Jugend uniforms sexy but not the right to pretend they aren't Nazi uniforms and ask others to agree.

GR:

how about we NOT find her attitude funny? Little girls are not ALWAYS perfect or funny or cute and I find this to be one of those times.

There's a fine line between girl love and girl worship and I see it being crossed here.
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Most outlandish part of that statement is the implication that "sexy" is the ONLY quality I find in girls. I see many facets in girls, part of which is at times negative qualities.

What that girl said was downright rude no matter WHY she said it.

She never implied, imho, that "sexy" was the only quality you find in girls. She *did* imply that you want / wish for every little girl to be only what you like, which I know is false and which could get you angry (it would to me). You are failing to see her argument here; and while I disagree with her argument too, your failure makes you not properly reply. She is saying that you are disapproving of the girl because she doesn't conform to your expectations (of What I Like About Girls). While I agree with everything you said, it also means that it's only tangential to what BHN is saying.