Memory and muchness

True. That's Bea's account of her forgetfulness.

But we know that actual trauma imbeds memory more deeply. And that repressed memories appear to be a figment of the Freudian imagination.

I think that two factors which might inhibit the formation of memory are repetition and lack of volition.

I, myself, don't remember my school years very clearly: particularly the "school" bits. But why should I? Was any day's class really that different from another? And had I actually had to devote any though as to what the lesson would be, or to which class followed another? I suspect that institutionalized student passivity also makes the whole experience less memorable.

Our ancestors were trained to notice novelty, to analyze its utility or threat potential, and to ponder whether their choices resulted in improvement or setback. Turning kids into passive receptacles blocks most of the features our memory was designed to hold. And parents removing other choices only makes their free-time less their own, and less memorable as a result.

Also, I wasn't the first BF, the worst breakup, or the father of her child. So there are many reasons why she is so much more imbedded in my memory than I am in hers.

( She is the only Non who knows I'm a Pedophile who I have actually had to remind. Yes, she forgot. )

Dante