Re: False memories

The first excerpt is a dream, and so she says. It is always hard to jump from what you dream to what you experienced. Dreams are related to our feelings and our memories, but the relation is not so linear that it allows for a straight translation. I've dreamed having (illegal) sexual activity with girls in my AOA; but I've never had it outside my dreaming. Moreover, I've dreamed both girls I know, and girls that seem to be entirely CGI'd by my brain, whom I've never seen in my life.

But, supposing it's a recollection, it still sounds like corporal punishment to me, not sexual abuse: that she was tied up and gagged and someone was doing something painful to her genitalia (maybe circumcizing her?).

Same for the other excerpt: that is corporal punishment; kids scream on it, kids are told they're bad for screaming; and yes, often fathers (who are stronger) administer it while mothers look on approvingly or stay out and come in for the spoken chastisement after the physical part. [things that Freud never considered, by the way]. All of that is more consistent with physical than sexual abuse (even if the pretext for the physical abuse was her sexual behaviors, which does seem to be the case); and all of that is also consistent with the attitude that her family has taken now: sexual abusers know they are sexual abusers while physical abusers only do things "for your own good" and "because you deserved it" - though of course, as she cannot remember the whole, she assumes sexual abuse because it's what is supposed to be traumatic, unlike physical abuse.

Still, I will agree with her that her family doesn't deserve the time of the day from her. Even if I don't believe prima facie her interpretation of what happened when she was 3.