they want us to be.


It's a little like saying (back in the homophobic days) that we want to see homosexual men working as bathroom attendants.*

And, actually, I think a lot of MAPs are drawn to other careers and industries. While I agree with the sentiment of carving a place in society, I think that place should have a social niche that isn't necessarily tied to vocation. And, as studies/media reminds us, there's no one background or vocation for MAPs (just as not all gay people are in theater). I can see a number of us stating they're far too intellectual or far too interested in owning an ice cream business (and not just ice cream parlors or daycares) or working construction or into computers. Some of us just wouldn’t be fulfilling our personal interests (or potential) in childcare work.

And, childcare might be hard for some MAPs who aren't interested (or comfortable) in taking care of children as an authority (or pseudo-authority) figure; some of us are would be better if we could just be friends, or for that matter romantic partners. It wouldn’t work as a job thing (anyone else unable to work at the same place as their girlfriend? Yeah, it’d be like that for a number of us).

Additionally, I think it's hard for a lot of younger MAPs because they tend to treat children like real people, not inferior members of society, which isn’t cool with the status quo or looks too suspicious to some of the more paranoid Law and Order SVU junkies out there. Or our young MAPs are nervous/awkward as heck around kids. I, for one, only became comfortable around LGs in my late twenties. I mean, I liked being around them, but I didn't know how to interact in a non-awkward and/or flirty way. I’d get too big of crushes to effectively hide, gavitate toward hanging with the middle schoolers instead of peers, which in retrospect probably looked a little odd. Now I'm very at ease, even in my crushing/longing. I know the right balance of restraint and affection to look kinda like I’d make a great dad.

Anyway, I think childcare would be great for MAPs interested in childcare. I'm a MAP who wouldn't be interested in childcare, and don't believe it's a thing one should get into just because they're a MAP.

What I want is to see us finding a niche on the psychological landscape of the world that isn't associated with child molestation or the variety of creepy things that most people think all MAPs do (when in reality it's very few, and a lot of creepy things are done in desperation because of a society that represses our sexuality).
That niche can be made by being great at what you do and being a minor attracted person both. And we’ve plenty of historical examples (I won’t list them here), and I think we need more. More geniuses, artists, and every day kinda guys too.



*purposefully being provocative.

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