respect my authoritah!

"But I do feel the need to declare that if you are bruising a teen to force her, and threatening to use your position to destroy her if she speaks out, you are not a girllover."

Most definitely.

Agree on the rest, too - and a fair number of the abusive bosses are not particularly bad people, just people who never understood how to handle a position of authority - which is not actually an easy skill. I recall one bad boss who was perfectly nice until the day he got a promotion.