no, you're right

On the honesty part I think. GC's a different place than it used to be, actually more like it was originally. You've had positive posts, so I jumped the gun there. We all have our own path to forge. Just as we shouldn't dismiss the validity of a young girl's feelings when they are real and intense for her, we shouldn't invalidate one another's when they are honestly experienced.

I can remember posting once that it's not fair to dismiss a young girl's passion for someone else, often deemed "puppy love" any more than it is fair for someone in middle age or elderly years to dismiss the love of late teen or early 20-somethings. For all people in their current stage of life, the love is very real and affects them deeply.

We do learn over time how to avoid previous pitfalls, but then I don't think LG's would be nearly as lovable if they were obsessed with practical concerns and didn't go with their hearts as freely as they do.

That said, the lion's share of posts really shouldn't be one guy laying on a couch expressing his troubles on a daily basis. We all have our own crosses to bear, and many come looking for the bright side of love. That was probably my point.

As you probably know, there is the chat as well as Lifeline, which is specifically dedicated to the things you are going through. I actually think you'd be better helped by them anyway if this is a problem that you have to speak about daily and with nothing seeming to get better, only darker.

I hope things get better for you, RBL.