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You have reasonable questions and concerns.

My first response is that although it is difficult to think of a new relationship with an adult, maintaining a relationship is different than entering into one. I know many couples who are both in their 70s or 80s who have been together for 50 years or more, and I suspect that 50 years ago neither one would have been attracted to an 80 year old, yet here they are.

My second response is to ask, is it any worse to be dumped by an adult than to be dumped by another child? If a child is dumped by another child we commiserate and call it a learning experience, part of growing up. Why would we hold a double standard? That said, I would think an adult would be able to handle the other side of such a situation better than another child.

My third response is that the sort of "sexual relationship" that most pedophiles might like with a child is not necessarily similar to a sexual relationship between adults. My instinct is that it would be more oriented towards mutual exploration and play. In fact, many of us who are "pro contact" wouldn't have a problem with some sort of restrictions, such as an age of consent of 12 for anal or vaginal penetration, so long as the penalties are not so wildly out of proportion as they presently are.

My fourth response is that pedophiles should be careful not to be too adoring of their little friends. As much as we might be inclined that way, it is not healthy for them and we should be helping them develop a realistic self-image and a realistic idea of what to expect from the world, and this includes modeling a loving, mutually respectful relationship which does not include too much adoration or permissiveness. I think most of us here already understand this.




Baldur