He later apologized, some time later, explaining what was driving his lashing out at not just me, but nearly everyone.

We all deal with a hatred and label that has no nuance of any kind, nevermind an allowance for our individual behavior nor personal belief on said topic.

Everyone deals with it in different ways. Everyone has preexisting or co-current situations or attributes which contribute to how they deal or cannot deal with inaccurate definitions and the social treatment they experience based on those definitions.

In Hajduk's case, I accepted what he told me, based on how he had changed and had continued to interact with people later.

Forgiveness is a non-starter for some who feel they've been wronged in some way, no matter how small. That's their right. My views about these message boards is there's always been a whole lot of insincerity, a lot of gaming, a lot of secretive hatred portrayed as sharing our identity, and our fair share of extreme narcissism and wanton abuse of others even when actually attracted to kids.

I didn't like what was told to me about the Hajduk of before. However, my experience allowed for leeway toward forgiveness. I guess a mere argument in chat wasn't so hard to forgive, but that's my experience. This is a difficult identity to have in a time and place where it is lied about, generalized, and hated as a virtue.