It just looks like you equate acceptance with with being pro-contact and it is not that way, you can have acceptance with who you are and accept too that having sex with children would be harmful to them and choose celibacy, that does not mean you are self-loathing.

And something else is that being pro-contact is certainly illegal in many countries, an online forum that is pro-contact could be taken down for encouraging sex abuse of children or charges similar to that.