I don't know why that is an unreasonable position to take.

Because disclosing information about the personal situation is not in the best interest of the GLer. As with my replies to RbL, I find myself stating the obvious.

He also gives seniority a lot of importance.

Griffith has him easily beat in that regard, not to mention in being decent to new people. Unlike KBA, Griffith is also trustworthy.

That you disagree with his ethics doesn't mean it's not an ethical code.

Believing oneself above ethics is hardly an ethical code.

As you apparently believe him to be a "good" person/GLer despite (or because?) this, might I be enlightened as to the good in

"if you are not out and you don't have girls STFU"
"You are fucking beneath me to the point I'd step on you like an ant".

compared with the genuine activism of Tom O'Carroll or Ed Chambers.
Somehow the latter activists manages to live as pedophiles without sprouting dehumanizing crap.