We can't have nice things:(

Er, I mean this is why I've always warned people about getting too close with family members. They might be the easiest relationships to build into a romance, due to familiarity and trust and social acceptance to be near one another due to the family ties you have, but the negatives can result in some ugly problems that you cannot leave in your past, unless of course you leave your family in your past.

Not something most people are wise to do, even if the rest of your family seem like jerks. Old and single gets difficult, but old and alone with no family is a far worse prospect. Some families forgive, to an extent. Others don't. Sometimes that depends on how far things went. Sometimes there is just no tolerance for having one of "us" in the family, even if you've done nothing at all.

And don't ever underestimate the sheer jealousy that can occur when one of their parents starts to see that she bonds more with you than she does them, through no intention of yours. This is often because she was already alienated from her parent(s) when you came along and filled a void. No matter how well you try to behave yourself, it won't matter when there is jealousy. They will want you out of their lives.

I used to think it was better to be more interested in their friends, but that's still not very bright. Their parents are still going to tell your relatives if they discover or suspect anything, and are probably more likely to involve the police as well.

Ideally, the safest way to go is to become extremely rich, say a few billion net worth. Then you can buy your own tropical island and build an overnight petting zoo. That's my new plan, anyway.