I expressed it poorly but I meant people say that there should be sex education for children because they have sex anyway and so it's better to learn about how to have sex safely and about self respect and relationships.

But then the same people say sex with adults should be so taboo that no one can even talk about it, as if it doesn't happen and so there's nothing education can help with.

I don't see how both views can be reconciled. In both cases the fact that it happens is true and if that means children should feel able to talk about it and learn about how to do it safely and self empowerment and respect then it surely should apply regardless of who they're having potentially risky sex with.

I see that as a strong argument for removing the taboo, at least so much as to allow some element of education about being able to choose a partner and not be pressured into anything and if doing it then safety and how to make it a positive and safe experience. If we just pretend it doesn't happen then it will still happen, just more dangerously.

With the taboo lifted a little then it could lift more. I remember when the idea of children having sex at all was so taboo. Children would be shamed if it was discovered they had sex, certainly it wouldn't be something talked about at school. Kids did it anyway, got pregnant, got hurt and eventually common sense set it and society decided recognising it as something that happens and is natural then we might as well educate about it. So I'm just talking about applying the same logic wand possibly with the same eventual outcome.