"this is why I believe there is an above average number of Aspies among MAPs."

Personally I would rely more on the several surveys over the years that find about 75% of us have Aspie traits. ;-)

Of course, this applies only to MAPs in online communities.

"No one who actually has emotions is immune from that."

Despite what you may think, even the most extreme Aspies have a full set of emotions. Aspies differ from non-Aspies in having difficulty reading the emotions of others - and perhaps by dealing with emotions more rationally, but not by being emotionless.

But back to the earlier point - I wrote "if someone is deliberately hurting another, they might be acting on limerance or lust or obsession - but it has ceased to be love." Limerance, lust, and obsession are all strong emotions and frequently mistaken for love - but they are NOT love.

I recognize that pedophiles feel these emotions just as anyone else does, and I do not hold pedophiles to a higher standard than others. We are all human beings, after all, and fallible. I am not going to judge too harshly based on the failings that we all have in varying degrees, and I am not going to condemn pedophiles who cannot always live up to the standards of being a child lover. Nonetheless if we are talking about Love I am going to hold to the high standards that Love deserves, and to call a person a child lover or a girl lover I expect that person to act out of love at least most of the time - rather than just lust or limerance or obsession.

Which brings us back to my original point: For many, "Girl Lovers are not molesters" is true by definition, because the definition of "Girl Lover" excludes those who do not act in love. Many use the term "Girl Lover" to differentiate between those who LOVE girls and those who are merely ATTRACTED to girls. Perhaps your personal definition differs.