Yeah...

...i see after i re-read your post that you were trying to take a more neutral stance...but it still seemed like you WERE implying he should do it...after all you gave him LOADS of advice on HOW to have the affair and not get caught...it seemed like you added the "if that's what YOU want" part to cover your ass a little. I read between the lines and it seemed like you thought it's not a bad idea to do it...of course I am open to the possibility I am totally wrong, after all it was you who wrote it.

As for the other thing...life is tough and you've gotta deal with it. I love my gf and we have a great sex life, but when my little couisn tries her little "stuff" on me it makes me crazy and miserable...but it's also moot. I cannot legally do a damn thing with her and so I don't. Instead I just keep doing what I've always done, be with my gf. I guess it is very different for me since I had so many years where I was not aware of my feelings for lg's. It really has not changed our relationship too much. I just don't see a time where I will NOT want to do anything sexual with my gf. If that day ever came I would not want her to sit around feeling neglected. I would do everything I could to make HER happy too.

doesn't that make sense?

Inf.