Re: False memories

Many children will not realise what is normal or abnormal in most families.

That's an issue whichever way: whether it's a family way more tolerant of masturbation than average, or way less tolerant. Or whether it's that Jews don't do Christmas trees.

(I remember clearly fighting for my life, fighting for survival, screaming, kicking him with my feet because he used to pin my hands to the bed).

And that description doesn't sound like sexual abuse to me; sounds like physical punishment. Justified or not, that physical punishment on a small child, that's another issue. But of course, you're not supposed to feel traumatized from corporal punishment.

The most strange thing, to me, would be why a child, of infant/toddler/preschooler age, who had always lived with an adult man who had been sexual with her, would perceive it as "not normal", and so much "not normal" that she would resist to him, much less resist so strongly. You can argue her apparent consent is voided by her unusually sexual life experiences (with him, of course) and by the parent-offspring relationship; but you cannot argue that this circumstance creates "voidable" apparent consent right on the face of something which created resistance. It's different if, after being socialized by school and mainstream media, she became unreceptive; becoming unreceptive at 3 really sounds like a stretch if she had been abused since forever.