Child Lovers adore children.

Child rapists frighten, exploit, molest, and hurt children.

The problem is that these two groups aren't always distinct. In fact, most offenders probably fall somewhere in the middle. And I've read accounts where relationships started off loving and turned into more abusive relationships. Too many GCers want to believe that there is some simple dichotomy between lovers and abusers, but as with anything to do with humanity, this is just too simplistic.

Of the 250,000 pedophiles in the UK (not saying I agree or disagree with that number), the only ones who need any real help controlling "urges" are the ones who have any desire to frighten, exploit, hurt, or molest.

Or, people who have deluded themselves into thinking a child wants their sexual attentions when there's a much higher likelihood that they don't. People who have become blinded by their emotions. It happens a lot with younger pedophiles. A lot of those feelings are new to them and augmented by their hormones.

I deeply pity the pedophile - especially that one with the mostly / entirely pedophilic sexual orientation - who has been so indoctinated as to believe that his affection is an "urge".

Again, false dichotomy. The sexual orientation exists, but sometimes so do the urges. Nothing that most people cannot control, but suggest that you are not influenced by your urges is a falsehood.